Feet Thoughts
Written by:  Isabella Dolce

How to tell a girl you are dating?

This is the question men ask me most BY FAR! How to tell a girl you are dating about your foot fetish.

My feelings are that no matter how you tell her, the goal is just to tell pretty much. Many foot loving married men who aren’t open with their partner about their fetish would agree with me. At least you got it out there… so start by not putting so much pressure on yourself on how to find the “perfect way” to bring it up. There is no “perfect way.” Each individual situation demands its own individual solution. That being said, I think I have a few guidelines that might help.

In my opinion, bringing it up at the beginning (not the first date, but early in interaction), is the best thing to do. This way, if she is stone cold not into it at all, you are less emotionally invested and can move on easier.

Why do I suggest moving on? Because guys… you need to come to terms with the simple fact that your love of feet (shoes, trampling, etc.) is NOT GOING TO GO AWAY.

What is a foot fetish? It is an extension of our sexual self. So denying it is like someone who likes sex, living without sex. Most will fail miserably. Why? Because our sexual urges for the most part come from the animal primal part of our brain… and are hard to regulate and ignore. In my experience, most men will find a way to get their foot fix eventually.

So I feel that it is crucial to tell a girl early in if you intend to share it with her at all. No doubt people can be judgmental… we all are! But if she is judgmental about that, maybe she is not the girl for you. Think about it for a second… if she can't accept this very important sexual part of your personality, how could she be your lifelong partner? Yes, your sexual preferences are part of your personality too.

Not ready to just come out and say it yet? There are sneaky ways of seeing if she is into her feet being paid attention to. The best way I find is to give her a foot massage. Check her reaction when you suggest one… then make sure you watch if she is truly enjoying it while you are massaging. If she shuts you down… she has foot issues… probably better not to get any more attached unless you want to possibly keep your fetish in the closet.

Yes it is hard to bring up to a girl… but I can also say from personal experience that it is hard to bring up to a guy too. I just usually wait until we are a few dates in and I ask if they have any fetishes or if they like feet. Sometimes I get the response that feet are gross… that makes me sad, but I am who I am… and I deserve to be accepted as I am.

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