I always struggle with how much of my "other" life to reveal to you. I have had people try to out me before and it has made me rather wary.
I want to let you know that I have been working at a new day job which I love, but gives me much less time to devote to my website and online presence (as you may have noticed!). All I can say right now is that I am a civil servant now, so my privacy is now a little more imperative.
The good news is that I love my job and am lucky enough to be making a difference for the better in people's lives daily.
I have a ton of updates, so let me see if I cam remember them all!
The last private sessions that I had went very well despite someone booking a session and not showing deliberately. Just so you know, if you are reading this, I know who you are... and you have inconvenienced all of my clients for the future by making me collect more information and insist on a deposit for my time. To all my clients, I apologize for the changes, but they are necessary.
I have gotten some new shoes and I am anxious to show them off... I am hoping to be doing a good photo shoot soon with a good photographer friend of mine.
If you have email me, you should know that I have been having some problems with my inbox, so if you haven't heard back from me yet, it may be a good idea to try sending me an email again.
I just got a pair of $600 Christian Dior shoes... I will be uploading pics to my site soon, but in the meantime you can see my blackberry pics of them on my facebook: http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100002614369164. A new neat thing that FB has introduced is that you can now subscribe to my feed (thereby getting my updates and pics on your feed)... BUT not have me as a friend! This is great for those of you that want to keep up with my posts, pics, etc, but don;t necessarily want your friends seeing me on your friend list.
I think that is it for now....
Lastly, I am looking for a talented website designer as I would like to tweak my website!
This is the question men ask me most BY FAR! How to tell a girl you are dating about your foot fetish.
My feelings are that no matter how you tell her, the goal is just to tell pretty much. Many foot loving married men who aren’t open with their partner about their fetish would agree with me. At least you got it out there… so start by not putting so much pressure on yourself on how to find the “perfect way” to bring it up. There is no “perfect way.” Each individual situation demands its own individual solution. That being said, I think I have a few guidelines that might help.
In my opinion, bringing it up at the beginning (not the first date, but early in interaction), is the best thing to do. This way, if she is stone cold not into it at all, you are less emotionally invested and can move on easier.
Why do I suggest moving on? Because guys… you need to come to terms with the simple fact that your love of feet (shoes, trampling, etc.) is NOT GOING TO GO AWAY.
What is a foot fetish? It is an extension of our sexual self. So denying it is like someone who likes sex, living without sex. Most will fail miserably. Why? Because our sexual urges for the most part come from the animal primal part of our brain… and are hard to regulate and ignore. In my experience, most men will find a way to get their foot fix eventually.
So I feel that it is crucial to tell a girl early in if you intend to share it with her at all. No doubt people can be judgmental… we all are! But if she is judgmental about that, maybe she is not the girl for you. Think about it for a second… if she can't accept this very important sexual part of your personality, how could she be your lifelong partner? Yes, your sexual preferences are part of your personality too.
Not ready to just come out and say it yet? There are sneaky ways of seeing if she is into her feet being paid attention to. The best way I find is to give her a foot massage. Check her reaction when you suggest one… then make sure you watch if she is truly enjoying it while you are massaging. If she shuts you down… she has foot issues… probably better not to get any more attached unless you want to possibly keep your fetish in the closet.
Yes it is hard to bring up to a girl… but I can also say from personal experience that it is hard to bring up to a guy too. I just usually wait until we are a few dates in and I ask if they have any fetishes or if they like feet. Sometimes I get the response that feet are gross… that makes me sad, but I am who I am… and I deserve to be accepted as I am.
I’m a little miffed. I really hate snide comments on
facebook about me not responding to people’s emails.
This is just a quick note to everyone who is upset or
wondering why I don’t respond to emails.
1) I don’t think a lot of people realize the sheer amount
of email I get a day in between my website, facebook & Fetlife. Was I to
respond to every email, I would not be able to hold down a job.
2) Believe it or not, I don’t always want to talk about
my feet for your sexual pleasure. If you want to talk about my feet with me so
you can get off, be ready to pay… I am not your girlfriend.
3) I have a day job. I devote a lot of time to putting up
FREE content on my website for YOU to enjoy. This takes up a huge chunk of my
free time. I would like to spend the remainder of my free time enjoying and
living my life, not responding to the endless flow of emails asking me how I
like my feet worshipped.
Lastly… and somewhat related, please don’t email me asking
to meet. I will not meet you. It’s not fair or safe for you to ask me that. If
you want a session, I am happy to oblige… but I will not meet you for
coffee/sex/etc.
I feel this goes to the core of the respect issue again…
I am a person, and should be treated as such.
I love my fans, but sometimes things can be a bit much
for me… so much so that I have even thought of quitting at times. But then I
remember how much I love this!
Thank you for your understanding and continued support.
I'm really excited about the new website. I hope you all like it!
So I thought to celebrate the new site, I would write a new blog...
If you have been reading my blog, you know that the last time I wrote, things weren't going too good.
I am very sad to report that in that time my Grandma was hospitalized for 3 months and eventually passed. She was a truly great and strong lady that will inspire me until my dying day. I want to also thank everyone that took the time to send me their condolences on Facebook. Even though it was just Facebook, it meant a lot that I had such caring people in such a difficult time for me. It's still hard, but I am really trying to look toward the future as she would have wanted.
The future... the possibilities seem endless! After a bad 2010, I know 2011 will be great.
It started out with an appearance on the morning radio show of 102.1 The Edge (The Dean Blundell Show). I had fun, and was very gratified and thrilled to get the foot message out there. You can listen to the interview HERE.
Even though the guys ribbed me a bit, they were actually very nice... and they seemed to really be fond of my jugs... lol. It was a good experience.... I hope people see it as not so abnormal now.
Abnormal... Normal... who decides which is which?
If its relative then it is very possible that foot fetish is normal... to me anyway. I come into contact with more people that have foot fetishes than not.
Having this fetish in my life, and loving it, I have come to the conclusion that I honestly don't believe I could be in a relationship with anyone who did not share my fetish. Whereas I used to think it was just something I enjoyed engaging in, I now find it is something I NEED. This does reduce the pool of men I have to choose from, but I happen to think the remaining pool is a very special one.
I actually hesitate in writing this because I don't want to encourage people emailing me for a date (seriously... not dating random people that email me from my site). I still plan to date as usual, but when I settle down it will be with someone who loves my fetish... and me :)
It has been a while since I have actually "written" a blog.
So much stuff has been going on lately... it has been quite overwhelming.
I struggle sometimes with how much of my personal life to reveal. I am concerned with my privacy as you can tell (ie. pictures with the mask!).
Do I deserve privacy? I guess I am a somewhat public figure, does that make me public domain? I like to think not.
There are some who feel I don't deserve privacy though. I was shocked and hurt to see that someone betrayed me this week.
I live my life in a mostly vanilla way... not many people in my life know about my foot stuff. There are good reasons for that which I am sure many of you can identify with. However, I hoped I could keep the two parts of my life separate. I even had another facebook profile... a vanilla one that had my vanilla friends and family... who know nothing about this part of my life. Well this week I found out that one of my fans had found my vanilla profile (which has since been taken down, thank you), and messaged at least one of my friends who was a girl (not a close friend).
This person proceeded to ask the girl if he could lick her feet. Shocked, she asked why he would ask such a thing. He replied that he figured she might be into feet because she was friends with me... aka. Isabella Dolce. "Didn't you know this is what she does for a living?"... and directed her to my website.
Girls can be odd. Gossipy. I don't know who this girl was... I found out from another girl... so I have no idea how far this has gone now.
Regardless, that is not the point. The point is, do I not deserve the right to whom I choose about certain things in my life? I felt so betrayed and disappointed. Maybe I am being too sensitive... but I really thought if anyone would respect my privacy, it would be my foot boys... knowing how judgmental some people can be!
Anyway, as I said, I had to take my vanilla facebook down.
Perhaps the reason why I am so hurt could have something to do with the other stuff that is going on too.
I have had a bad case of strep throat. The meds are taking much longer to work than usual. Another few days and I will go back to the doctor.
I suspect the reason I got the strep throat is because my defenses have been low.
My grandmother had a stroke a few weeks ago and it has hit me hard. I haven't been sleeping much and have been going back and forth from the hospital. Hospital germs.
She is not doing well. She is moving her leg on the side that was affected by the stroke a bit, but is unable to move anything else. It makes her happy when the grand kids go and visit her... and it makes me happy (and a bit sad) to be there too.
This is one of my most honest and kinda depressing blogs.
I would really like if this was my last depressing blog for a long while.... I am so over 2010... bring on 2011!
Malik Turner, a 40-year-old
UPS sorter who lives with his mom in Harlem and is the most eligible
bachelor in the New York, if not the country, if not the world, if not
the universe!
Scooping up vagina with the click of a mouse on Craigslist isn't the
way a natural born romantic like Malik wants to woo the lady of his wet
dreams to snuggle with him on the top bunk in his mom's guest
room/office/craft station. Malik prefers to do it the old-fashioned way
so he has posted several hand-written personal ads on telephone booths
around the city. Yeah, I'm pretty sure this is how Romeo met Juliet.
Malik might be filled with a brand of delusion you thought only
existed in a Lohan, but he knows how to write a personal ad. Malik's
personal ad makes Harry Potter seems like something that exists in real
reality. When Malik's kindergarten teacher told him to "dare to dream", he took that shit a little too far.
Basically, Malik is looking for a 21-45-year-old white or Hispanic
female (NO SHE-MALES!!!!) with red or blonde hair (NO BROWNHAIREDS!!!)
who has big tits (NO FATS!!!!) and is a total slut (NO HOOKERS!!!). She
must also be a non-smoker who goes dutch (NO GOLD DIGGERS!!!) and
regularly wears daisy dukes with 6-inch spiked heels (NO SHE-MALE
HOOKERS!!). Malik is hoping to find all of this in a classy lady who
stops and reads personal ads on a damn telephone booth!
If you're a 22-year-old Hispanic slut with red hair who thinks she
has finally found her Prince Charming, think again. Malik is only
looking for fuck times and isn't ready for anything serious.
I'm not going to add anything else, because Malik has it covered and
you should really spend time reading his entire ad. And in case you
haven't already noticed, MALIK IS WEARING A FANNY PACK! A fanny pack
that matches his outfit! Yeah, so don't act like you're not dialing
9-1-7-6-5.... right now.
I finally know why Lady Gaga
exists! She was put on this planet to write "Telephone" and record it so that these U.S. soldiers
stationed in Afghanistan could spread the glitter to it in the video
above.
My favorite is the ginger thrusting his everything like he's trying
to woo Bin Laden out of a cave.
Everyone knows someone that has been sexually assaulted or abused. They just may not have told you about it.
I say this because I want you to feel affected enough to do what I am asking...
Imagine your wife, mother, daughter or sister being assaulted. Imagine for a minute how intensely horrible and life shattering that would be. The fear, shame, terror...
Hold on to that image for a moment.
I am asking you to do nothing more than flag a video on You Tube.
He calls himself "Dimitri the Lover." At first blush, you may think he is funny, harmless even.
I assure you he is not.
Dimitri is a local "celebrity" in Toronto. Known for hitting on women in the downtown area. He has a "men's meeting" where men learn to be like him... misogynistic, disrespectful and treat women like meat (frequently referring to them as "sluts.")
As bad as this is, it's not even the worst.
"Dimitri" used to be James Sears, a doctor who was molesting his female patients. He was criminally convicted of sexually assaulting his patients and his medical license was revoked. (details and links below)
This man is now making a "documentary" and posted a trailer on You Tube.
Please flag this video for his victims -- people don't know the truth about him and I believe that a convicted rapist should not have a platform like this. (Not to mention that the video is sexist and disgustingly offensive, and he himself is a sociopath).
Please cut and paste the following link:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=neW-_HJ4Vjc
Thank you deeply...
Isabella
ps. If you are as upset as I am tell your Facebook friends to flag it too... the sooner this scumbag's crap is off YouTube, the better!
He calls himself a doctor. But James Sears is no doctor. He was stripped of his license to practice more than a decade ago after being criminally convicted of sexually assaulting female patients.
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He boasts that his service will be as "commonplace as checking references on a resume" in the future. And he dismisses concerns that he is misleading clients by calling himself a "doctor."
"Anyone can review a medical file and give an opinion, says Sears. "Lack of a license is a non-issue. I don't tell them unless they ask, and most people don't ask."
Sears boasts that his clients include the Toronto Transit Commission and Canadian Tire. The TTC confirms that it used Sears on a few occasions four or five years ago.
A victims' advocate who sat through Sears' disciplinary hearing is horrified at the thought of a man convicted of sexual assault looking at womens' medical histories.
Toronto Sun: By 1986, Sears was in the Canadian Armed Forces and while still a third-year medical student was evaluated by a military psychiatrist who suggested there was "something seriously wrong" with Sears.
He was shunned by fellow students because of his behaviour. A female officer complained he repeatedly tried to enter her room, and military police found "a can of Mace, several knives, two empty smoke grenade canisters and an electronic stun gun" in his room following an incident.
So as some of you may or may not know, I have had a really rough 2 weeks or so.
It all started with pain and swelling in my right wisdom tooth. I was in pain for about two days, self medicating with soup and denial until I decided to suck it up and go to the dentist.
This was a pain (pun intended), because I only work part time and do not have dental coverage... so ya, I was pissed at the amount of money I spent for the dentist to look at my teeth for 5 minutes, take an x-ray and prescribe me some pills. That wasn't even the worst of it... not by far... this was just the beginning... but I digress.
I got antibiotics for an infection that had occurred because my wisdom teeth had "impacted." Meaning my bottom wisdom teeth were pushing on my back teeth and had also grown in at a 90 degree angle. So, now I'm on the hook for wisdom teeth removal in the new year at a cost between $750 and $1000.
Why am I telling you all of this? It's relevant, I swear! (And if you want to donate to my wisdom teeth fund - contact me. ANY size donation is welcome!)
Okay... back to the story at hand...
So I start taking my meds thursday of last week... things are going good... by saturday morning I can eat solid food again!
However, Sunday afternoon, I start to feel a bit sick... nausea... it happens, I'm not worried. I go to bed early sunday night.
3 am rolls around and I wake up feeling a bit sick. I won't go into the gory details, but that was the first of many successive vomiting episodes that followed. The last one was so violent and bad that I passed out.
I was so weak I couldn't stand, so no - I didn't go to the doctor.
Now (4 days later - thursday) I am finally back on solid food again.
Do I know what caused it? No... I suspect it was one of 3 things; a reaction to my tooth meds, a medication interaction, or a stomach flu.
Honestly, I am just so glad it's over that I really don't care what it was... I stopped my tooth meds on monday and so far the pain and swelling hasn't returned. I'm keeping my fingers crossed everything will just keep going well.
So this is the reason I have been absent from facebook/replying to emails.
We have a private party coming up in a week so I am thrilled to be healthy again. Frankly, I need some serious foot attention. I am very glad it is only a week away!
There is something else I want to talk about though... my new guilty pleasure... Jersey Shore. (MTV show... Youtube link posted below!)
Does anyone else watch this show? I am fascinated and at the same time repulsed by this show! The show revolves around a group of Guidos and Guidettes (the female version of a Guido) that are in a house on the Jersey Shore for the summer.
The show has the Italian-American Group UNICO up in arms because they say it shows stereotypes of Italians (Article Link Here), but let's be honest - MTV isn't known for making thought provoking TV history making shows.
As a second generation Italian (parents from Italy, but I was born here), I have to say, the stereotypes are bad. But any semi-intelligent person would know that stereotypes are not representative of the truth.
I say the show is my guilty pleasure because I hate the fact that I watch it, yet I can't help myself.
Does anyone else have a guilty pleasure show? or watch this insane show?
The kind of labels we make, and use on ourselves and others.
Why we have this need to label... to fit everything into a nice neat box.
I think we are threatened by the unknown, by things we can't understand. If we are able to label something or someone, we feel we have a handle on what or who they are.
But I think most labels are manufactured for our comfort.
Citing myself as an example, I find I am quite hard to label.
I hate when people cite the fact that I am a gemini as a reason for my varied personality.
When did having layers and being complicated become a bad thing?!
Our darwinistic path has led us here... being one dimensional is a sad thing.
I especially have a hard time with sexual labels.
Gay, straight, bi-sexual, transvestite, transsexual, bi-sexual, since when did we need to announce these things? So society can have us figured out and neatly labeled?
I have seen too many friends being destroyed by society's/friends/family's reaction to label like "gay."
A label does not change the person inside. Maybe a person who you changed the diapers of, grew up with, shared your secrets with.
Are we capable of treating each other with kindness and understanding instead of fear and disdain because of a simple label?
Micheal Jackson has been on repeat for 3 days now on my music player.
I
can't believe how sad I am that he has passed... but I guess everyone
has at least one MJ song that touched them or they can relate to.
Billie Jean has always been my favorite. It has been my ringtone for a few years now.
I
rediscovered a hidden gem when listening to my MJ collection... do you
remember that song he did called "Give into me" with Slash? I am loving
that song... there are certain songs that make me feel sexy and that is
defiantly one of them!
Foot Goddess Isabella Dolce's blog about life, feet, shoes, parties and other Goddess stuff.
New blog of my published article for "The Foot Exhibit Magazine" - 
